Why “I Don’t Want to Bother You” Is Never True

I hear this all the time:
“I don’t want to bother you.”
“Sorry to text so late.”
“I know you’re busy, but…”

In fact, one of my husband’s friends texted me just a couple of weeks ago, and the message started exactly like that:
“I know you’re busy, but…”

What followed wasn’t small talk — it was a conversation about selling their home.

And let me be very clear about something:
That is never a bother.

You are never bothering me with questions.
You’re never bothering me with uncertainty.
You’re never bothering me with a “can you explain this again?” message.

If anything, those are the conversations I want to have.

Honestly, the only thing that ever actually “bothers” me is the nonstop spam calls if you’re a real human with a real question about your real home, you’re already my favorite call of the day.

I actually want to be busy.
I love staying busy.

Staying busy also helps keep my ADHD brain focused because left unattended, it will absolutely wander off after a squirrel.

Because in this industry, time doesn’t slow down and honestly, it never really should.

Real estate is not for the weak.
The clock doesn’t stop.
The questions don’t pause.
Life keeps happening, and homes are bought and sold right in the middle of it. I won’t lie and say that I do not get exhausted or that I do not get overly emotional on certain days, but doesn’t everyone have bad days?

Vacations? They include laptops.
Even if it’s a theme park, there’s probably a backpack involved — and yes, an iPad.

Volleyball tournaments? There are breaks between games where I’m answering calls, responding to texts, or writing offers from the sidelines.

The setting changes… but the responsibility doesn’t.

And that’s okay.

Because buying or selling a home doesn’t wait for a perfect moment, a quiet season, or a clear calendar.

It happens after work.
After practices.
After kids are in bed.
In the car.
Between meetings.
When your brain finally slows down enough to think.

That’s usually when the questions show up.

And I’d much rather you ask them than sit there spiraling, googling worst-case scenarios, and convincing yourself something is wrong.

Because Google doesn’t know your situation.
Google doesn’t know your contract.
Google doesn’t know what’s normal.

Some of the best conversations I’ve had with clients — and friends — didn’t happen during “business hours.”
They happened when life finally paused just enough for someone to reach out.

Is it busy sometimes?
Absolutely.
Is it nonstop?
Most days.

But if you’re trusting me with something as important as your home, then questions aren’t an inconvenience they’re part of the job.
More than that, they’re part of the commitment.

This is a 24/7 career, and while that’s not for everyone, I absolutely love it. I love the energy, the unpredictability, and the little adrenaline rush that comes with solving problems in real time  even if it means answering texts in the car, on the sidelines, or mid–squirrel distraction.

So, if you ever find yourself typing out a message that starts with:
“I know you’re busy, but…”

Stop right there.
Ask the question.
Send the text.
Make the call.

Because the clock may never stop — but neither does my willingness to show up.

That’s exactly what you deserve.